The 6 S’s To Support Your Self-Care

by on February 26, 2013

I don’t know about you, but it’s easy for me to take care of everything that needs to be done in my business, but it’s a constant effort and discipline for me to take “down time” for myself. Fortunately, my diet is great, which gives me a lot of energy, but it’s not easy for me to turn my business “off” to rest and relax. It’s hard because I absolutely love what I do and I’m driven to make a positive difference in the world, so to me it doesn’t even feel like work! And I know I’m not the only one.

While this is also true of some men, I especially find that women entrepreneurs have a much more difficult time with this.

We need to do a better job of taking care of ourselves.

I personally do pretty well with all of them except for rest, sleep and leisure in #5 below.

But how?

First, you need to be aware of the many facets of self care and how you’re doing in each area:

On a scale of 1-10 (1 being the lowest, 10 being the highest), evaluate yourself on how you’re doing in “The 6 S’s To Support Your Self-Care” and see where you need a boost.

1. Service: First, let’s acknowledge that when you give, you ARE receiving! It feels good to give, so give yourself credit for that. Service comes in many forms:

  • Helping people out and doing nice things for others
  • Giving time, money &/or resources to charitable organizations or causes you believe in
  • For entrepreneurs, getting your message and transformation out to your clients and to the world
  • Legacy is a form of service. It’s the mark you want to leave on the world after you’re gone. It’s the difference you want to make, and how you want to be known and remembered.

2. Surroundings: This is the bridge between your outer world and your inner world. Your outer surroundings reflect the state of your inner well-being. Notice your home and working environment to see if they reflect the “grandest vision and greatest version” of yourself and your dreams. If they don’t, take steps to organize and beautify your space. The tradition of Feng Shui, the ancient Chinese Art of Placement, aligns your environment to support your health, wealth, relationships and happiness. One of the most basic principles is to clear the clutter! The definition of clutter is: if you don’t love it &/or use it, it’s clutter.

3. Support: An extension of your physical environment is who you surround yourself with. Jim Rohn said that “you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”. Do those people support who you are and who you are becoming? Do you best to limit your time with or stay away from “energy vampires”, those people who bring you down and drain your energy.

Sometimes our well-meaning family, friends, and people closest to us are the biggest offenders. Keep up-leveling who you surround yourself with and be around positive, inspiring, uplifting people.

Mentors: Having a mentor to guide you is one of the most powerful forms of support you could have in your business and your life. Choose a mentor who is an expert in the area that you want to improve and whose life is a model of what you want to accomplish. It’s best to choose a mentor who is living proof of what they’re teaching, and someone you respect, trust, and admire.

Team: Whether you have a job or a business, working woman today can’t do it alone. There is simply too much on your plate to do it all yourself. Take small steps to outsource tasks that you don’t like, don’t do well, and others can do to for you to free up your time to focus on doing what you love, you do well, and that only you can do. You can barter or trade, or start with outsourcing lower dollar per hour activities that you’re doing yourself that would free you up to do income generating or self-care activities.

4. Systems: In order to be the most productive and effective with your time, begin to document the things you do on a regular basis. Create written Standard Operating Procedures (SOP’s) to capture the best practices of what you do and how you do it. I do this in virtually every area of my business and my life. Why? First, because then I don’t have to keep it all in my head. And second, because then I can easily delegate and train a team member how to do it as well or better than I would do it, and it frees me up to do what I’m best at, what I love, and only I can do. This takes a little practice, but it’s well worth it.

Creating systems is the single most important thing that I’ve done in my life that has enabled me to build a support team around me. This frees up my time to focus on the revenue generating activities in my business AND the nurturing and self-care activities in my life.

5. Self-care: You can’t delegate your self-care! This is one of the most important reasons for doing steps #2-4 above. Your self-care is what recharges, refuels, relaxes, restores, and nurtures you. When you take great care of yourself, you have much more energy and vitality to do your service and work in the world. There are many components to self-care, including, but not limited to:

  • Personal & spiritual growth practices
  • Health practices such as nutrition, exercise, rest & sleep
  • Personal enrichment time for learning
  • Leisure time for fun, vacation & travel, recreation & entertainment
  • Social time with family & friends
  • Romantic & intimate time with partner, sensual & sexual pleasure

6. Sacred Self Indulgence™: This one is my personal favorite and the one that I believe is the most important of all. Your Sacred Self Indulgence™ is your passion. It’s the thing that brings you pure joy and bliss that you love with all your heart. It’s the thing that when you do it, you completely lose yourself in it and lose all sense of time. When you’re doing it, you may even experience that it brings you closer to God or makes you feel one with the Universe/Source/Creation. Your Sacred Self Indulgence™ is just for you, and no one else. You do it for the pure love of it. For some people, it can be some form of creative self-expression like singing, dancing or painting. For others, it can be an activity such as sailing, golfing, or hiking. Whatever it is, it’s important to identify how frequently and how long you need for your Sacred Self Indulgence™ in order to feel fully alive, happy, and fulfilled. The benevolent side effect of regularly giving yourself and receiving this gift is that you become magnetically attractive for positive things in the form of people, opportunities, and prosperity to enter your life.

Based on how you rated yourself, begin to take steps to improve each area. Remember, it’s about progress, not perfection. Expanding your ability to welcome, embrace and receive is a journey and a process. Ultimately, increasing your capacity to receive in all of these areas is the ultimate leverage to increase your capacity to fully give. It’s the ultimate win-win for life!

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