You Can’t Delegate Your Self-Care!

by on February 13, 2013

It must be in our DNA, but women often have a hard time turning off the “caregiver” switch to take care of ourselves. And as a women entrepreneur, not only does that switch stay on at home, but it’s perpetually on in our businesses. As a result, we’re switched “on” 24-7, with virtually no off-time physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally…and even financially.

With stress levels at record highs, women are more exhausted than ever. And it’s hurting our health, our relationships, and our businesses. It’s time to take the Superwoman cape off and hang it up for a while. But doing that is a lot easier said than done, right? After all, if your to-do list is anything like mine, you could work non-stop and still not get everything done.

The problem is, not only is that pace not sustainable, it’s actually costing you money! As women, we’re so used to being on the “giving” end, not the “receiving” end of everything. We’ve gone completely overboard with the “it is better to give than to receive” mentality. Besides which, it’s mathematically unsustainable.

In order for there to be a giver, there must be a receiver. And I believe it’s actually a selfish act to always be on the giving end. Why? You know how much joy and pleasure YOU get out of giving, right? When people try to give back to you and you don’t receive it, you’re depriving them of that same joy. How do you feel when you try to give from your heart to someone and they reject it, saying they don’t deserve it, can’t take it, it’s too much, etc.? It actually deprives you of the pleasure of giving. So in truth, the pleasure of giving comes when the gift is fully received with grace, delight, and appreciation. Graciously receiving is a true act of love. So when you don’t receive, you’re selfishly depriving others the pleasure of showing their love, support, and appreciation for you.

Taken a step further, when you don’t take good care of yourself and give yourself the support and nurturing you need, you’re making the same mistake. You need to keep your own tank full in order to keep going and keep giving.

There’s no question that as women, we need to do a better job of asking for and graciously receiving help and support. For most women, our “receiving muscles” are weak, flabby and out of shape! It’s the balance of giving and receiving that will allow our health, energy, vitality, relationships and financial abundance to flow.

So, how do you change it? First, you need to be aware of it.

And in the next ezine article, you’ll get to evaluate yourself on how you’re doing in “The 6 S’s To Support Your Self-Care” and see where you need a boost.

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